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GIFT OF LIFE ROSE
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PUBLICATIONS
Following are Publications and Books to help family members work "THROUGH" the process of grieving. This listing is in no way an endorsement by Mid-America Transplant Services.
Bereavement Magazine
Bereavement Publishing, Inc.
8133 Telegraph Drive
Colorado Springs, CO 80920-7169
(719) 282-1948
(719) 282-1850 - Fax
Bereavement Magazine is a magazine of hope and healing that is published six times per year. Subscription required.
Centerpieces
Center For Loss and Life Transition
3735 Broken Arrow Road
Fort Collins, CO 80526
Centerpieces provides information of grief related issues and Center activities.
For Those Who Give and Grieve
National Kidney Foundation, Inc.
30 East 33rd Street
New York, NY 10016
(800) 622-9010
For Those Who Give and Grieve is a quarterly newsletter for organ and tissue donor families published by the National Kidney Foundation, Inc. to offer information about grief and support. It is provided to all families at no cost and is supported entirely by voluntary donations.
Getting through the Holidays
The Chrysalis Center
7717 Natural Bridge Road
St. Louis, MO 63121
(314) 381-9195
This booklet will help you prepare for the holidays. Making specific plans and having some ideas for handling various situations will help you face the holidays with a little less pain and confusion.
The Last Goodbye II
Boulden Publishing
P.O. Box 1186
Weaverville, CA 96093
(800) 238-8433 for a free catalog
The purpose of this book is to enhance one's grief healing process and honor your relationship with the person who was close to you.
When Hello Means Goodbye
Perinatal Loss
2116 Northeast 18th Avenue
Portland, OR 97212
(503) 284-7426
This is a guide for parents whose child dies before birth, at birth, or shortly after birth. Call for price and ordering information.
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BOOKS FOR ADULTS
A Legacy of Love
McCarter, P.M., New York, NY: Vantage Press, Inc. 1983.
This is a chronicle of a mother's struggle to come to terms with the death of her first-born son in a canoe-trip accident. The book is a series of poems and remembrances that describe the author's grief, suffering, and finally, acceptance of the tragedy.
Are You Weeping With Me God?
Clark, Martha Bittle, Nashville, TN: Broadman Press, 1987.
Very few people are prepared for tragedy. But once it happens, we have to decide. We can go on living, reaching out to others in a way we never could before. Or we can be destroyed, allowing the tragedy to claim still another victim.
Death of a Mother: Daughter's Stories
Ainley, R., San Francisco, CA: Harper Collins Publishers, 1994.
This book is a collection of 30 non-fiction pieces by women about the death of their mothers - ranging from hatred and relief to deepest love and despair. These pieces are in the form of letters, poems, and stories.
Early Winter: Learning to live, love and laugh again after a painful loss
Bronson, H.
This book is about newness of life and the inherent changes that we all must learn to live with. That newness is a gift from our past loved ones. Through these writings, you may find that you are not alone and that you can put your life in solid order as you discover that the special warmth and wisdom of your loved one gets stronger with time.
For the Bereaved: The Road to Recovery
Kutscher, A.H., Bess, S., and Klagsburn, S.C., Philadelphia, PA: Charles Press, 1995.
Addresses the practical issues and the emotional upheaval of bereavement. Provides useful information about what to expect and what to do during the days, weeks, and months following loss.
Good Grief
Westberg, G.E., Philadelphia, PA: Fortress Press, 1971.
This book describes what happens to us whenever we lose someone or something important. It provides a better understanding of small griefs in life as well as those larger grief experiences which can overwhelm us.
Grieving: A Love Story
Coughlin, R., New York, NY: Harper Perennial, 1994.
This book intertwines two tales, one about a couple's precious and painful last months together; the other about the wife's devastation after her husband's death.
Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations for Working Through Grief
Hickman, M.W., New York, NY: Avon Books, 1994.
Daily affirmations: quotes, discussion, and a thought for the day.
How Do We Tell the Children? A Step by Step Guide for Helping Children 2 to Teen Cope When Someone Dies
Schaefer, D., and Lyones, C., New York, NY: Newmarket Press, 1993.
A book for adults to help them talk to children about death. Includes a section on what children think about death at different ages, what questions and behaviors may surface, common reactions, and a list of support groups.
How to Survive the Loss of Love
Colgrove, M., Boomfield, H., and McWilliams, P., Los Angeles, CA: Prelude Press, 1991.
A supportive guidebook that covers many losses from that of a mate to the loss of youth. Beautiful poems are interwoven with descriptions of the stage of loss and advice on handling one's grief. Gives 94 main suggestions for surviving, healing, and growing. Available on audiotape.
How to Survive the Loss of a Parent: A Guide for Adults
Ackner, L.F., New York, NY, 1993.
This book looks at a group of people grieving the loss of a parent. It uses examples of the therapist's own loss as well as members of his group. Chapters include: "Being sad takes energy"; "A shake up in family dialogue"; "Saying goodbye"; and "Lessons in healing."
Life After Loss
Deits, B., Tucson, AZ: Fisher Books, 1988.
Teaches one what to expect, how to talk to those who don't know what to say, how to cry, how to write a goodbye letter, starting a support group, coping with holidays and setting goals.
Life is Goodbye Life is Hello: Grieving Well Through All Kinds of Love
Bozarth, A., New York, NY: Hazelden, Inc., 1986.
Guide others through all kinds of losses and disappointments: separation and damage, physical death, death of a relationship, death of a dream. Show us how to make grief as an action. We become agents in our own healing process instead of victims of our grief.
Losing a Parent: A Guide to Facing Death and Dying
Kennedy, A., San Francisco, CA: Harpers, 1991.
A book about the author's personal experience with the death of a parent. The author talks about taking "inner journeys" - her explorations into personal pain and grief. After each chapter, there are exercises for exploration into grief and healing.
No Time For Goodbyes: Coping With Sorrow, Anger, and Injustice After a Tragic Death
Lord, J.H., Ventura, CA: Pathfinder Publishing, 1990.
This book addresses the unique grief involved with a tragic loss, where someone is suddenly killed. It offers personal accounts and advice on dealing with things such as the criminal justice system.
On Children and Death
Kubler-Ross, E., New York, NY: Collier Books, 1983.
Based on a decade of working with dying children, this compassionate book offers the families of dead and dying children the help and hope they need to survive.
On Grieving the Death of a Father
Smith, H.I., Minneapolis, MN: Augsburg, 1994.
A book about the death of the author's father. It goes through his thoughts and feelings. It has recollections of fathers' deaths from famous people. Discusses moments of comfort and quotations. Parts of the book include the passing, the burying, the mourning, the remembering, and from now until Eternity.
Recovering From The Loss of a Child
Donnelly, K.F., New York, NY: Berkley Publishing Group, 1994.
When a child dies, the pain and shock can seem unbearable. But in sharing, understanding, and accepting this tragic loss, emotional recovery is possible. This book shows bereaved parents, siblings, and others how to cope with one of life's cruelest blows. With inspiring firsthand accounts from others who have survived this heartbreaking experience, this compassionate and reassuring volume can help in healing the heart - and learning to live again.
Recovering From The Loss of a Parent
Donnelly, K.F., New York, NY: Berkley Publishing Group, 1993.
However you choose to cope - through private, inner searching or sharing your feelings with others - this book is a companion through the process of understanding and accepting your loss. Through intimate discussions with sons and daughters, the many emotions that arise after the death of a parent are explored as they tell the inspiring stories of how ordinary people overcame their anguish. These personal insights can offer reassurance that you're not alone and can help you to get through.
Remembering With Love: Messages of Hope for the First Year of Grieving and Beyond
Levang, E., and Ilse, S., Minneapolis, MN: Deaconess Press, 1992.
Provides over 300 short pieces to remind us that we are not alone and assures us that we will survive. There is a guide to help you locate specific topics for the days that you need them. Suggests that the secret to healing is in remembering our loved one forever.
The Courage to Grieve: Creative Living, Recovery, and Growth Through Grief
Tatelbaum, J., New York: Lippincotte & Crowell, 1980.
Helps to understand grief as well as face it fully, which includes dealing with intense emotions of sorrow, guilt, loneliness, resentment, and confusion. Provides useful techniques for completing grief with a spiritual, optimistic, and creative tone.
When A Loved One Dies
Williams, P.W., Minneapolis, MN: Augsburg Publishing House, 1976.
A hospital chaplain helps us understand strange emotions that overtake us when a loved one dies. More importantly, he reminds us that God is with us on our journey offering comfort and strength.
When Bad Things Happen To Good People
Kushner, H.S.
Author provides information that helps in coping with unfortunate happenings.
You Don't Have To Suffer: A Handbook for Moving Beyond Life's Crises
Tatelbaum, J., New York, NY: Harper & Row Publishers, Inc., 1989.
Challenging the firmly-held belief that we must brave our circumstances and endure life's crises, this book contends that while hurt is inevitable in life, suffering is not. We cannot necessarily control our experiences or tragedies, but we can consciously choose how and how much we suffer over them. We learn to apply insights to our separation from others, recover from grief, relationships with our parents and children, and our own bodies.
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BOOKS FOR TEENS
Help For The Hard Times: Getting Through Loss
Hipp, E., Center City, MN: Hazelden, 1995.
A book for teens to help explore their "loss feelings." It is for the loss of anything: parents, friends, failing grades, no dates, etc. Chapters include "What is Loss," "What is Grief," Getting through Grief," "Healing," and "The Gifts of Loss."
How it Feels When A Parent Dies
Krementz, J., New York, NY: Alfred A. Knopf, 1981.
A collection of 18 children's stories on what it means when a parent dies, how it feels, their grief, loss, confusion, anger, etc.
Letters from Motherless Daughters: Words of Courage, Grief, and Healing
Edelman, H., Reading, MA: Addison-Wesley Publishing Co., 1995.
This is a companion to Edelman's first book, "Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss." These are actual letters from daughters who have lost their mothers. The letters are arranged in stages: the first 5 years, 5 to 10 years after, 10 to 20 years after, 20 to 30 years after, and 30 plus years after death.
Motherless Daughters: The Legacy of Loss
Edelman, H., New York, NY: Dell Publishing, 1994.
A book about the author's own loss of her mother, her search, and the searches of others who have lost their mothers. Discusses how this loss shapes the lives of a daughter - in herself, relationships with others, grief, and sibling relationships.
Part of Me Died, Too
Fry, V.L., New York, NY: Dutton Children's Books, 1995.
A collection of eleven stories about young people who experience death: of moms, dads, grandparents, siblings, pets, etc. Using writing, drawing, farewell projects, and rituals at the time of death to help these kids bring feelings out to be explored.
Straight Talk About Death for Teenagers
Grollman, E.A., Boston, MA: Beacon Press, 1993.
A book for teens who have lost anyone - a parent, grandparent, sibling, friend, etc. Discusses feelings they may have, changes in relationships with friends and family, coping with holidays, and going back to school. There is space at the bottom of each page for personal thoughts.
Will I Ever Feel Good Again? A Guided Journal For Teens
Dockery, K., Grand Rapids, MI: Fleming H. Revell, 1993.
Guides teens (or anyone) through grief. Encourages drawing and journaling. Discusses anger, guilt, sadness, and tips for helping a grieving friend.
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BOOKS FOR CHILDREN
Badger's Parting Gifts
Varley, S., New York, NY: A Mulberry Paperback Book, 1994.
A book about Badger, a special animal, and how the other animals coped with his death. Each animal shared special memories of Badger and realized what he had taught and given each of them.
Everett Anderson's Goodbye
Clifton, L., New York, NY: Henry Holt and Co., 1983.
A book about a little boy dealing with his father's death. It uses the 5 stages of grief as a model and does a good job of expressing what kids may feel or think.
Lifetimes: The Beautiful Way To Explain Death To Children
Mellonie, B. and Ingpen, R., New York, NY: Bantam Books, 1983.
A book about lifetimes - beginnings, endings, and the living in between. It explains how everything has a beginning and an ending.
My Mom is Dying: A Child's Diary
Westberg, J., Minneapolis, MN: Ausberg Fortress, 1994.
A young girl's mother is dying, and this is a book about her feelings about her illness, death and afterwards. It is in the form of letters written to God.
Sad But OK: My Daddy Died Today
Juneau, B.F., Nevada City, CA: Blue Dolphin Publishing, 1988.
A book through the eyes of a 9-year-old about her father's terminal illness and his death. Discusses her thoughts and feelings. It is a longer book, not a picture book. Recommended for older children.
Saying Goodbye to Daddy
Vigna, J., Morton Grove, IL: Albert Whitman & Co., 1991.
A young girl's father dies in a car accident. This story goes through her feelings right after the accident, the days before the funeral, the funeral, and after. It discusses her feelings of sadness, guilt, loneliness, and anger.
The Fall of Freddie The Leaf
Buscaglia, Leo, Thorofare, NJ: Slack, Inc., 1982.
A book about life and death through a story about a leaf. It goes through the four seasons and talks about thoughts, feelings and fears.
The New King
Rappaport, D., New York, NY: Dial Books for Young Readers, 1995.
A great book about Rakoto, a young prince whose father is killed in a hunting accident. The boy becomes king. His first command as king is to bring his father back to life. He commands the Royal Doctor, the Imperial Wizard, and the High Councilor to bring his father back, and they explain why they cannot. Finally, he asks the Wise Woman. She explains to him through a story how death is irreversible, it is not his fault, and that it is a part of life.
The Three Birds: A Story For Children About The Loss Of A Loved One
Van den Berg, M., New York, NY: Magination Press, 1990.
A story about a family of three birds - mom, dad, and baby. Mom becomes sick and dies. It discusses baby bird's reactions and fears, and how dad helps.
When Dinosaurs Die: A Guide To Understanding Death
Brown, L.K. and Brown, Boston, MA: Little Brown & Co., 1996.
Explains death in simplistic, straightforward talk. The authors use dinosaurs to illustrate their points/discussions about death, feelings, saying goodbye, and remembering.
When Someone Very Special Dies: Children Can Learn To Cope With Grief
Helgaard, M., Minneapolis, MN: Woodland Press, 1988.
A journal for kids. Allows them to draw their feelings; helps them to understand death and express the feelings they may have.
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